Accountability (noun): the quality or state of being accountable; an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one’s actions
Who holds you accountable? Who takes responsibility for your actions? Your choices? What I teach my students, is “YOU are in charge of you. No one is forcing you to do anything that you don’t want to. You have the power to study or read when you’re supposed to. You have the voice to suggest what foods to choose. You have the knowledge and tools to avoid drugs and peer pressure. You are in control of the choices that you make every single day, that effect your life, for better or for worse.”
This is all well and good and important to teach a young child. Hopefully, their lives contain a type of structure, any semblance of structure. Structure is important in developing good habits. Strong practices. Positive coping and management skills. The habits that we develop in our childhood have the power to shape our futures.
But what often happens when we get older? More independent? More financially settled? We can fall out of our previously stable structure.
Falling out of our structure, our former norm, can cause topsy-turvy in our lives. We may feel chaos, anxiety, low motivation. We may feel freedom, comfort, heightened excitement. We may feel a mixture of these emotions at any moment of the day. Topsy-turvy indeed!
How can we create new habits? How can we build a new, yet sturdy and stable structure? How can we take responsibility for our actions and choices and hold ourselves accountable again?
It is important to remember that our choices are only as good as the TEAM surrounding us. As children, our parents/guardians, siblings, extended family, friends, teachers, coaches, and instructors made up our team. They were rooting for us to succeed. These wonderful people showed us the skills that we needed to build our structures and supported us in our quest to find our personal successes.
When our lives become topsy-turvy and we are open and ready and committed to regain balance, we need to call upon our team to guide us, show us, teach us, and hold us accountable for crafting our structure of The Now.
Putting together your team:
- Accept that you want to make a change (i.e. financial savings, increased fitness, dietary substitutions, spiritual realignments)
- Reach out to supportive friends or family members with SIMILAR interests or goals in mind
- Your teammate/s will feel honored that you asked them for help on your journey in building your structure of The Now
- They may ask you for help in keeping them accountable on their own, similar journey
- You are the strongest learner when you can create and develop from what you know
- Set a SMART goal or goals and share that goal with your team
- Remember, SMART goals are safe, realistic, and timely
- Update your teammates with your successes, complications, set-backs
- If chosen appropriately, your team is rooting for you no matter what
- Enlist professional assistance when needed
- Seeking consultation from a financial planner may be the person you need to talk to if financial savings is what you strive for
- Joining a gym may be the first step in reaching your fitness goals if working out at home is not the best practice for you
- Hiring a personal trainer, nutritionist or registered dietitian, or health coach may be the professional teammate that you need to reach your health, nutrition and wellness goals
- Have open an communication with your primary care physician before engaging in strenuous or increased physical activity and extreme diet plan if this is not already your norm
You have the power, the skills, the knowledge, the tools to make the best decisions for you and your life IN THIS MOMENT.
Lean on a friend. Recruit a spouse. Talk to a health coach.
Set goals. Work hard. Stay committed. Remain focused. Believe in your abilities. Trust in your team. Be kind to yourself.
Are you ready??
Yours in accountability,